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April 2014   

Negotiating for Win/Win Outcomes


By: Norb Slowikowski

An essential skill in any good leaderís arsenal is the ability to negotiate. "NegotiationĒ is defined as "discussion aimed at reaching an agreement.Ē As anyone in the business world can attest, this is not always the simplest of tasks. We need a series of guidelines to achieve unity of purpose in any productive discussion. The specific method to use for optimum give-and-take is that of Principled Negotiation.

Principled Negotiation, or "Negotiating on the Merits,Ē achieves success by being hard on the problem and soft on the people. This is effective because it takes away the roadblocks to real communication. The essence of this method can be summarized in five points: First, separate the people from the problem. Second, focus on underlying concerns, not stated positions. Ask why. Third, generate a variety of solutions before deciding what to do. Fourth, base the agreement on objective standards or fair procedures. And finally, prepare in advance what youíll do if negotiation fails. Know your "BATNAĒóBest Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement.

Itís also important to remember that people are in a constant negotiation, frequently looking for an edge in obtaining the most efficient solution possible. During a negotiation, everything you want is owned or controlled by someone else. This knowledge helps us break our methods down further to the critical factors of power, information and time. Power in negotiation comes down to influence. Specifically, what makes one person able to influence another person. Information is the knowledge that can be used to influence the negotiation. The time element comes into play in how critical the negotiation is to either partyís ultimate success.

With all this in mind, letís get more specific about effective negotiating skills. The "Big ThreeĒ in skilled negotiation are perception, emotions and communication. If you can master these three skills, every negotiation you engage in will create success for both parties involved.

Perception. Ever heard the phrase, "perception is reality?Ē It holds just as true in the case of negotiation. Perception is understanding the way the other side thinks. As you negotiate, your perception can be enhanced by a few simple steps. First, put yourself in their shoes. Donít deduce their intentions from your fears, and donít blame them for your problem. Discuss each otherís perceptions, and look for opportunities to show the other person that youíre not who they think you are. Give them a reason to think youíre flexible. Also give them a stake in the outcome; have them participate in the process. Finally, make your proposals consistent with their values.

Emotions. Another guideline that goes hand in hand with perception is emotion. By letting emotion affect our style of negotiation, we can be perceived in ways that hurt our bottom line. With this in mind, be aware of what you are feeling. During persuading sessions you need to recognize and understand emotionsóyours and theirs. You should acknowledge emotions and make them a focus of discussion, if necessary. Also allow the other side to let off some steam. Consider using symbolic gestures such as inviting your opponent to join you for a cup of coffee. Finally, donít react in kind to emotional outbursts.

Communication. After harnessing your emotions and winning the game of perception, you can move on to more open, honest, two-way communication. Here are some proven psychological techniques to improve communications: Speak to be understood and reduce outside distractions by keeping confidence and communication in private. Speak about yourself, not about them. Use first person. Listen actively and acknowledge what is being said. Finally, donít simply react. Think before you speak, then speak with a purpose.

Armed with these guidelines, you can still run into roadblocks on the way to success. Prepare in advance for what to do if the negotiation fails. Itís always important to have a backup plan, so invent a list of actions you might take. Next, convert the most promising ones into realistic options and then select your best option. This option becomes your "walk-away alternative.Ē Judge every offer against this alternative.

Itís important to use all your options, whether itís your top priority or your best alternative. Keep everything on the table without narrowing the negotiation down to only one item. One common mistake in negotiation is to make the whole discussion about price. If you narrow the give-and-take down to one issue and it is price, someone has to win and someone has to lose. When you include every facet along with price in the negotiation, you have a real chance at an agreement that fosters communication in the future.

Norb Slowikowski is president of Slowikowski & Associates, Inc., Darien, Ill.

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